Anxiety disorders are not just the feeling of being nervous. Many people experience feeling anxious about an interview, or a first date but this disorder is complex, and uncontrollable. If you do not suffer with anxiety it may be hard to understand. Especially if a friend, significant other, or family is diagnosed with anxiety it can be difficult to understand what you can do to help. One important thing to remember is that every person is different, especially when it comes to what triggers them. For example, your loved one may hate when you bring up their disorder- but your mom is very open about hers and talking about it actually makes her feel better. So unless they bring it up, it is better to stay away from the topic. Another important key is to stay calm and do not get frustrated. Since it is uncontrollable, getting frustrated with them will only make them feel worse/more anxious. Also make sure that whoever you are dealing with that suffers with anxiety knows that you are always there for them. Reminding them you are always there to talk can help them feel more confident in talking to you when they are struggling. Some people may like to be alone while enduring anxiety so do not take it to heart if they do not ask for your help; just be there for them if they do! Inviting them to do exciting things and adventuring outdoors can relieve stress and help them feel carefree; even if it is only for an hour! Through all of these do’s and don’ts, always remember to keep whoever suffers with this disease on your mind, whether they distance themselves or not. Anxiety can lead to depression and some may suffer from social anxiety, so wanting to be alone is common. Just make sure that they are aware of your love and concern for them. A great piece of advice I found medically reviewed by Faiq Shaikh M.D states, “You don’t need to change who you are, and the person with anxiety doesn’t want you to change either. You are close for a reason. Be yourself. The fact that you’re looking for what you can do to help this person with anxiety proves that you’re a good influence in their life” (CalmClinic).
What helps me personally is just being around my friends and family. I dislike when people bring it up because it reminds me of being anxious and then it is on my mind. I appreciate the friends that I have who encourage and check up on me, making sure I am always OK. When it comes to school, it makes me feel better to hear “You will do great. And if not it is not the end of the world!” or “I can help you study if you need it.” Being invited to things even if its just studying together or getting food helps prevent feeling lonely. Especially during the whole transition to college. Teachers can help by being aware of the pressure students face and making sure they are available to any extra help.
Being aware of what your friends or family with anxiety may be going through and what you can do to help is important and can make a major impact! Be aware and be helpful.
Shaikh, F. (2018). 12 Do’s and Don’ts of Helping Someone With Anxiety. [online] Calmclinic.com. Available at: https://www.calmclinic.com/anxiety/tips-for-friends-family [Accessed 28 Nov. 2018].
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